How to Coach Yourself and Others Popular Models for Coaching

Or they may have the feeling that you are pushing them and are taking over control over their life. Whenever the coachee seems to get nowhere , hesitates to make decisions or take action:  Slow down and express empathy, especially about the difficulty of changing.  Emphasise personal choice and control.  Don’t try to provide solutions — invite the coachee to reconfirm his goals and to collaborate in providing a solution. The onus is then on him, not you, to make a decision to change.  Build up confidence by encouraging him take small steps and achieve small successes.  Challenge any irrational fears, beliefs and convictions that you discover : Use the ABCDE Coaching model (2.5.1),  Practise the questions about confronting fear (3.2)  Learn about dealing with obstacles and resistance (4.2)  Redefine fear (4.34) Examples of coachees expressing feelings of resistance: I don’t know why I did it. Looks like I just keep repeating the same mistakes all over. I guess that’s how I am, I just can't help it! What exactly stopped you from using the correct approach? How did doing this make you feel? I know it’s wrong to …., but I just can’t decide to … It sounds as though something is blocking you from … What is the worst thing that could happen if …. 71

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