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2) Challenging
To identify current reality and to highlight it in a coachee's
awareness so that he or she recognizes the things currently
at work and the consequences that will result if unchanged,
and therefore the things to move away from.
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Coachees Moves Away From Coachee Reality

Continuing explorations into unpleasant present and futures, doing so
with more confrontation that prods, pokes, and nudges the coachee to
feel the need to move away-from current situation.
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Increasing Level of Discomfort in Current Reality

After mentioning and asking about current reality, exploring further
into how painful, unpleasant, and undesirable things will be if
unchanged. Doing this in a matter-of-fact tone and attitude. Inducing
a state of intolerance and high level frustration about current state
and direction.
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Inducing Need to Move Away From Current Reality

Mentioning and asking questions about current reality to induce the
coachee to feel the need to move away from the current situation,
problems, and anticipated consequences. Inviting coachee to stay
with the emotions and awarenesses even though unpleasant. Asking
SWOT questions. "What stops you?" "What gets in your way from...?"
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Shifting Focus From Current Reality if Coachee Expresses
Discomfort
Mentioning and asking questions about current reality, but moving
away from such if the coachee begins to feel frustrated, upset, angry,
anxious, or fearful. Quickly moving to a "thinking positive" mode,
rescuing coachee from facing the current reality of his or her situation.
Mirroring or pacing back current reality.
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Brief Attention on Current Reality

Briefly or slightly mentioning the coachee's current situation, but not
dwelling on it, quickly moving away from speaking about anything
unpleasant, negative, or that would lead to painful consequences.

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