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The other leg of the star refers to FULFILLMENT which represents the things we do for love's sake
that promote a sense achievement within the relationship. In our everyday life we try to master the
situation, we want to dominate to overcome but in a relationship it is more often a matter to make
the other person happy to please them. The key word
here is SURRENDER to your partner with the
expectation that it will express your sense of love for
them. It is not a matter of compromise, which has its
place in the other aspects of the love star, here
surrender refers to the complete giving in to the
other's needs or desires for the sake of love. When
one surrenders it is not always easy but it should be
with joy, to fulfil the other partner's deepest needs.
This aspect also represents each partner's confidence
to rely on one another, to be comfortable depending
on each other. With this aspect the relationship is
assured the survival through all sorts of difficulties.
All together, this represents the love star, and when
each of these directions is satisfied among two people
then they obviously share a tremendous partnership.
If both agree that they fit together, that each aspect is
present and fulfilled then they have the necessary ingredients to make their love work and enjoy a
lasting relationship. These are rare. Even if one believes that they share every thing with their
partner, this means that they have the potential to succeed. A great relationship requires a lot of work
and time, something people these days are not always eager to invest enough of. Once these basic
qualities are fulfilled then begins a life of passion, joy, adventure, excitement, tranquillity, love and
family. Good luck!
Counselling can help both partners better appreciate what you can be grateful
for and be aware of what is missing. That information is vital to decide what to
do, if possible, improve the relationship or if not, work to dissolve it amicably. I
have helped many couples resolve their conflicts and find greater happiness. I
have also given my support to the couples who determined that they cannot go
on and must change their relationship. These are the most sensitive issues and
difficult things we must deal with. I have the experience to help you better
understand and deal with your relationship. Call my office to discuss your
situation to see if you would like to have me help you work on it.

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