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When this happens, it's important to remind yourself that it's a normal part of the grieving and healing
process. Allow yourself to have these feelings.
Learning to cherish a memory without letting it control you is a very important step in the grieving
process. By finding a special safe "place" for that person, you can heal from grieving and move back
into your life. You begin to find joy in new experiences, and you can take comfort in the knowledge
that you keep your cherished memories with you, wherever you go.
The "place" where you decide to keep your memories is up to you. You can visualize tucking your
loved one into a space in your heart, or you can keep a box of cherished photos or momentos. Perhaps
you'd like to find a special tree or nature setting that you can revisit. Give some thought to where you'd
like to hold memories of your loved one.
The important thing is learning how to cherish a memory without getting stuck there.

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And finally, what do you do with the love that you feel?

For many people, the hardest part of losing a loved one and grieving that loss is figuring out what to
do with all the love they feel for the person or pet who is gone.
Remind yourself that you don't have to stop loving someone just because he or she is no longer with
you. When a memory pops up, send a loving thought and know that you are loved in return. You may
find comfort in this, and the strength to continue on in your journey.