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Motivating the coachee
As you read in the part on challenging the coachee, in spite of the
fact that the coachee knows he is in trouble and has come to see
you about it, he isn't always motivated to really work on his
problems. He can also get discouraged in the course of the
sessions. It is up to you then to motivate him again by
encouraging him to look at it from different angles.
Here are some motivating sentences that you could use:
What would encourage you?
What would swing you into action?
What inner resources could possibly strengthen your will to
succeed?
How could you speed things up?
How much time do you allocate yourself?
The sooner you start, the quicker you can reach your goal.
We could go over everything again, but how about 'starting'
today?
Every journey starts with the first step.
Sometimes you need to just grin and bear it, and go on.
Examples:
Despite the counselling I give up. I just can't make it through the
month.
I think you've come a long way, hold on. Let's look at what
we can come up with to make it through the coming week.
What do you think you need for that?
I really think I should cancel the evaluation with my boss. It's no
use.
Look, once you've had the evaluation with your boss, at least
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