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4. Finding the Light
Darkness can only be eliminated when there is light (like a lamp, or
sunlight). In the same way, negative things can only be replaced by
positive things. Remember that regardless of what is happening to us
externally, or how bad things appear in our mind, we always have the
choice to speak and see things positively.
I know this is harder to do when you’re in midst of heated emotions, but
I’m a big believer that there is something to be learned from every
situation we encounter. Look for the lesson. Find something about the
situation that you’ve gained, whether it’s a material possession or an
understanding or a personal growth. Find the light so you can uncover
the darkness of your mind.
5. Surrender
Surrender to our ego’s need to be right, to blame, to be spiteful, and to
be revengeful. Surrender to the moment. Surrender to the pull to
become worked-up by the situation.
Become mindful. Watch your thoughts and learn to separate your
thoughts from your own identity. Your thoughts are not you.
Things will play out regardless of whether we become emotional or not.
Trust that the universe will work its course and do its job. By not
surrendering, we get worked up for nothing, and our body will suffer as
a result of it.
6. Circle of Influence
When we are feeling down, it’s easy to be sucked into the downward
spiral of bad feelings. It really doesn’t help to be around others
complaining about the same issues. It’s counter-productive to getting
well.
Instead, find a group of people with a positive outlook. When we are
around such a group of people, they will remind us of things we already
know deep within us, we can start to recognize the good, and the

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