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the last so we can see our perception escalating in
'severity'/importance as we go into the trough of depression via
a small impact on our sense of self (anxiety) through a greater
realisation of impact/meaning (fear, threat) and then an
understanding that (potentially) our core sense of self has been
impacted and our 'self belief system' undermined to an extent
(guilt, depression). Now if someone is going through multiple
transitions at the same time these could have a cumulative
impact and people could go through the initial stages almost
simultaneously - it then becomes a case of more
'evidence'/information supporting previous negative self image
and compounding the impression.
3) Is it possible that some people might skip some phases, as
in, after the anxiety phase, they go on to the fear phase,
instead of the happiness phase?
The happiness phase is one of the more interesting phases and
may be (almost) passed through without knowing. In this phase
it is the "Thank Goodness, something is happening at last!"
feeling coupled with the knowledge that we may be able to have
an impact, or take control, of our destiny and that if we are
lucky/involved/contribute things can only get better. If we can
start interventions at this stage we can minimise the impact of
the rest of the curve and virtually flatten the curve. By involving,
informing, getting 'buy in' at this time we can help people move
through the process.
4) Do the phases take place in the particular order that you
have published?
I have not undertaken any structured experimental research per
se, however anecdotal and 'participant observation' would imply
that this is a fairly robust model. It is also partially based on
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross's bereavement concept (five stages of
grief model) which has widespread acceptance. However...

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