How to Coach Yourself and Others Essential Knowledge For Coaching | Page 141

Key Differences between Functional & Dysfunctional
Individuals
Functional

Dysfunctional

Honesty, Integrity

Deceit, Not telling the whole story

Direct Communication Indirect Communication
(talking “through” others)
Responsibility

Privileges Sense of Entitlement

Accept responsibility

Blame others, Make excuses

For choices & results
Delay gratification

Have to meet desires now

Live in reality

Escape from reality (TV, movies,

on day to day basis

videogames, drugs, alcohol, sleep)

Save, do without

Spend, go into debt

Learn from mistakes

Expect to be rescued from choices

Forgive &

Hold on to grudges, Revenge

let go of past hurts
Keep commitments

Make verbal commitments with
no follow-through

Say what they mean

Hidden agendas

Being “real”

Focus on image & appearance

Can disagree without

Disagreement leads to anger,

Gettinh “personal”

personal attacks & hatred

Appropriate personal
boundaries

“Smother” others, try to be too close
too soon

They let you be “you”.

Use guilt to manipulate.

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