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• When gathering more information outweighs the advantages of
an immediate decision
• When others can resolve the conflict more effectively
• When the issue seems tangential or symptomatic of another,
more basic issue
Questions to Ask
You may wish to ask yourself:
• Do you sometimes find yourself hurting others' feelings or
stirring up hostilities? You may need to exercise more discretion
and tact in framing issues in non-threatening ways.
• Do you sometimes feel harried or overwhelmed by a number of
issues? You may need to devote more time to setting prioritiesthat is, deciding which issues are relatively unimportant, and
perhaps delegating them to others.
Collaborating
Uses
• To find an integrative solution when the concerns of both parties
are too important to be compromised
• When your objective is to learn - for example, testing your own
assumptions, understanding the views of others
• To merge insights from people with different perspectives on a
problem
• To gain commitment by incorporating others' concerns into a
consensual decision
• To work through hard feelings that have been interfering with an
interpersonal relationship
Questions to Ask
You may wish to ask yourself:

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