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remark from a coachee “My wife and I were able to have a long
talk together last night”—presents a tremendous opportunity to
draw out character traits that are already there. We have an
opportunity to reflect the underlying character components and
thereby reinforce the life choices that our coachees are making.
Thus, character education can become an everyday opportunity.
Messer (2001) related character to the concept of self-respect.
He quoted Rudolf Dreikurs, a student of Alfred Adler, as defining
self-respect as “the feeling that one is a worthwhile human being
in spite of one’s faults and imperfections” (Messer,2001,p. 265).
This represents the “courage to be imperfect” that Dreikurs
discussed on numerous occasions (Terner & Pew, 1978) and is
the key to the development of character. Messer went on to say
that self-respect (or character) “is not expressed in terms of
‘knowing,’ but of ‘feeling.’ It is not based on objective conditions.
It is a subjective experience” (p. 265).
Table 1 lists 36 “characteristics” or components that help to
define one’s character. These serve as the traits or qualities that
can be directly reflected to a coachee in response to his/her
“success” report.

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