How to Coach Yourself and Others Coaching With Meta Communication | Page 24

Only after you are convinced that you’re in, can you use one of these “pick-up lines” that are
often mistakingly advertised as first-contact starters:
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Can I borrow a quarter? I want to call my mom and tell her I
just met the girl of my dreams.
Are you religious? Because you look like the answer to my
prayers.
Can you give me directions…to your heart?
Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?
Did they just take you out of the oven? Because you’re hot!
Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?
Do you have a map? I just got lost in your eyes.
Do you know why the sky is so gray? All the blue is in your
eyes.
Do your legs hurt from running through my dreams all night?
Don’t stop! I don’t usually get to see beauty in motion.

Why not use these lines as opening lines?
They require that a positive, playful mood is already present.
Make sure you pick a line that is suitable and to say it in an amused and
amusing way!

Because you want to build a conversation, it is good to end answers with a question:
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I think, … and you?
How about you?
Are you also going? ---- coming?
How do you do this?
Where did you find it?
What do you think of?

Open questions make it easy for the other to take their part in the conversation:
These are questions which begin with : who, what, where, why, when or how
Open questions cannot be dealt with by simply answering yes or no.

An other interesting kind of questions to get the ball rolling are: probing questions:
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Interesting - Specifically what kind of … do you mean?
Great – Can you tell a little bit more about it?
What exactly do you mean by that?
That’s interesting - Can you go into some more detail on that?
I see – And what is your personal opinion about …?

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