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• Life and Contribution
o Power to serve life: to make life wonderful for others and self
o Ability to do what is necessary to live: to control one's own life, mastery, capability, and
competence
o Physical need for safety, nurturance, and nourishment: air, balance, caring, comfort,
exercise, food, harmony, movement, physical affection, procreation, protection (including
from viruses, bacteria, insects, and predatory animals), shelter, rest, tenderness, touch, and
water
• Autonomy and Choice
o Freedom to choose: ones own actions, dreams, feelings, goals, plans, thoughts, values, and
visions and to honor this freedom for others
o Self expression: authenticity, creativity, growth, healing, identity, individuality, integrity,
teaming, meaning, production, and solitude
o Mental need for knowing and understanding: awareness, clarity, comprehension,
consciousness, discrimination, honesty, information, making meaning, reflection,
stimulation, thinking, and truth
• Connection and Interdependence
o Love and belonging: to love and to be loved, mutual caring and sharing
o Give and get relationship with others: affection, being heard and seen, bonding, closeness,
companionship, communication, community, consideration, empathy, fairness, friendship,
inclusion, intimacy, interconnection, justice, openness, support, and warmth
o Emotional need for compassion and being compassionate: acceptance, acknowledgment,
appreciation, emotional safety and healing, nurturance, reassurance, reliability, respect,
sexual expression, tolerance, trust, and understanding
• Joy and Celebration
o Fun and enjoyment of the aliveness in each of us: aesthetics, beauty, delight, grace,
harmony, humor, inspiration, laughter, mourning, order, play, pleasure, ritual, and vibrancy
o Celebration of one's integrity: of one's wholeness, of all the parts that make up oneself, and
of being an essential part of a larger whole
o Spiritual need for oneness with all beings: passion, peace, love, purpose beyond self,
meaning for life, and unity