How to Coach Yourself and Others Coaching Families

BASIC FAMILY THERAPY TECHNIQUES .................................................................................239                                  ACCOMMODATION ..............................................................................................................239 ADVICE & INFORMATION...................................................................................................239 AFFECTIVE CONFRONTATION ..........................................................................................239 ASKING PERMISSION...........................................................................................................240 BEGINNER’S MIND ...............................................................................................................240 BOUNDARY FORMATION ...................................................................................................240 ADDING COGNITIVE CONSTRUCTIONS ..........................................................................241 1.Advice & Information ............................................................................................................241 2. Pragmatic fictions..................................................................................................................241 3. Paradox..................................................................................................................................241 COMMUNICATION TECHNIQUES......................................................................................241 1. MATCHING THE CLIENT’S LANGUAGE ......................................................................241 2. MATCHING SENSORY MODALITIES.............................................................................241 3. CHANNELING THE CLIENT’S LANGUAGE..................................................................241 4. USE OF VERB FORMS.......................................................................................................241 5. GIVE CLOSE EXAMINATION TO THEIR LANGUAGE AND YOURS........................241 COMMUNICATION SKILL-BUILDING TECHNIQUES.....................................................242 1. REFLECTING ......................................................................................................................242 2. REPEATING.........................................................................................................................242 3. FAIR FIGHTING TECHNIQUES........................................................................................242 CONCLUSION .........................................................................................................................242 CONFIRMATION OF A FAMILY MEMBER: ......................................................................242 DEFRAMING ...........................................................................................................................242 DETRIANGULATION.............................................................................................................244 DIAGNOSING..........................................................................................................................244 DIFFERENTIATION OF SELF ...............................................................................................244 DISEQUILIBRIUM TECHNIQUES........................................................................................244 1. REFRAMING: ...................................................................... ................................................244 3. BOUNDARY MAKING.......................................................................................................246 4. PUNCTUATION: .................................................................................................................247 4. UNBALANCING: ................................................................................................................247 LESSONS IN EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION ..................................................................248 EMOTIONAL CUT-OFF .........................................................................................................249 THE EMPTY CHAIR ...............................................................................................................250 ENACTMENT ..........................................................................................................................250 FAMILY CHOREOGRAPHY..................................................................................................250 FAMILY CONTRACT.............................................................................................................250 FAMILY COUNCIL MEETINGS ...........................................................................................250 FAMILY FLOOR PLAN..........................................................................................................251 FAMILY LIFE CYCLE ............................................................................................................251 FAMILY PHOTOS...................................................................................................................251 FAMILY SCULPTING ............................................................................................................251 FAMILY SYSTEM STRATEGIES..........................................................................................252 THE GENOGRAM...................................................................................................................252 GOAL SETTING ......................................................................................................................252 ICEBREAKER COMPLIMENT OR POSITIVE STATEMENT ............................................252 IDENTIFICATION...................................................................................................................253 INFORMATION-GATHERING TECHNIQUES ....................................................................253 1. The Genogram.......................................................................................................................253 20

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