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VI/ COMMUNICATION SKILL BUILDING TECHNIQUES
More often than not, it's a family's communication patterns and styles that lead to conflict and division.
Communication techniques are used to build skills that allow for effective communication between family
members.
Some of these methods include reflecting, repeating, fair fighting and nonjudgmental brainstorming.
REFLECTING
Reflecting is a listening technique which involves having a member express her feelings and concerns, then
having another member repeat back what he heard that person say.
REPEATING
Repeating is also a listening technique. It involves having a member state how he feels, while another
member repeats back what was said. Repeating and reflecting techniques allow members to better
understand where the other is coming from and why she feels as she does.
FAIR FIGHTING
Fair fighting techniques focus on attentive listening and expressing feelings and concerns in a
nonthreatening manner.
TAKING TURNS EXPRESSING FEELINGS
taking turns expressing feelings
NONJUDGMENTAL BRAINSTORMING
nonjudgmental brainstorming
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