How to Coach Yourself and Others Beware of Manipulation | Page 99

8. Lying:
Here, we are not talking about little white lies once in a while, but about compulsive liars who lie to
manipulate you.
More often than not, it is hard to tell if
somebody is lying at the time they do it,
although often the truth may be apparent later,
when it is too late. One way to minimize the
chances of being lied to is to understand that
some personality types (particularly psychopats)
are experts at the art of lying and cheating,
doing it frequently, and often in subtle ways.
Here are a few ways to see whether someone is
lying to you:
- The person is adding unnecessary details to an
explanation.
- When you ask for an explanation or a
clarification, the person stops and thinks, even
though he/she should know the answer right
away.
- The person pretends not to know something
that he/she obviously knows.
- The person may be laughing nervously.
- The person is not looking at you while speaking, or is looking at you too insistently.
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