How to Coach Yourself and Others Beware of Manipulation | Page 7

2.7. How to recognize manipulation for the purpose of domination or control .......................40
3. How to Pick Up on Manipulative Behavior...........................................................................43
3.1 Manipulation operates in sneaky ways ................................................................................43
3.2 Manipulation is about control ..............................................................................................43
3.3 Understand the manipulative personality. ...........................................................................43
3.4 Note the possible types of ways in which people try to manipulate one another. ...............44
3.5 How to deal with a manipulative personality ......................................................................45
4. Common Manipulation Tricks...............................................................................................46
4.1. Reinforcement.....................................................................................................................47
1. Forms of operant conditioning:..............................................................................................47
2. Positive reinforcement: ..........................................................................................................48
3. Negative reinforcement: ........................................................................................................49
4. Primary and Secondary reinforcers........................................................................................50
5. Intermittent or partial reinforcement: ....................................................................................50
4.2. Using fallacies to mislead people .......................................................................................51
4.3. Punishment .........................................................................................................................68
1. Nagging and Yelling..............................................................................................................68
2. The silent treatment ...............................................................................................................71
3. Intimidation, bullying, swearing and threats .........................................................................74
Fear ............................................................................................................................................76
Love ...........................................................................................................................................76
Emotional...................................................................................................................................76
Change .......................................................................................................................................76
Abuser........................................................................................................................................76
Children .....................................................................................................................................76
Support.......................................................................................................................................76
Needs .........................................................................................................................................76
More...........................................................................................................................................76
4. Emotional blackmail ..............................................................................................................79
5. The guilt trip ..........................................................................................................................82
6. Whining, Sulking and Crying ................................................................................................84
7. Self-pity - Playing the victim.................................................................................................88
4.4. Other Manipulative Tricks..................................................................................................89
1. The "No Way Out" question ..................................................................................................89
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