How to Coach Yourself and Others Beware of Manipulation | Page 270

Not complying can't be justified
The manipulator asks you various rhetorical questions ("You are a good person, right?") that make it
virtually impossible for you to justify not complying with what he wants.
Escape by: Realize you have been manipulated into feeling you can't justify it. So, don't justify it, and
don't do it anyway: You don't want it.
Reward and punishment
The manipulator rewards you for doing things he wants you to, and punishes when you do things he
doesn't want you to do.
Sometimes, as punishment can be resisted, it is made to look like a reward. For example, if in a group
everyone is rewarded for certain behavior, but not getting the reward means t