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7. Your partner tends to have a quick fuse, which makes you leery to talk to your partner about
everyday happenings.
8. You find yourself making excuses for your partners’ behavior.
9. Your partner forces you to have sex, when you do not want to. Even if you are married, it’s rape!
10. Your partner repeatedly threatens to leave you; making you feel that you need them.
Are You in a Manipulative Relationship? - Answer the following questions with a True or False.
_____ I sometimes feel confused about what my partner really wants.
_____ I feel that my partner frequently takes advantage of my giving nature.
_____ Even when I do something that pleases my partner, the positive feelings never last long.
_____ With my partner I feel that it's hard just to be myself or do what I really want.
_____ Around my partner, I feel taken for granted.
_____ I seem to work harder on this relationship than my partner does.
_____ My partner has a very strong impact on what I think and feel.
_____ I sometimes feel that I am trapped in my relationship and there is no way out.
_____ I don't feel as good about myself in my relationship as I once did.
_____ I feel that I need my partner more than my partner needs me.
_____ No matter how much I have done, I feel that it's not good enough for my partner.
_____ I feel that my partner does not understand who I really am.
There are twelve questions in this quiz. If you answered more than half of them with True, you might
want to consider exploring whether you are in a manipulative relationship.
Evaluate how your other relationships have changed.
o Are your family relationships and friendships suddenly filled with tension, every time your
partner's name comes up? Red flags should go up if everyone who cares about you is getting
worried or is being pushed away.
Does this person b