Issue 1
March 2014
BY LINDAS55
“Promises”
Watching Hongki and Mina opened their hearts to each other has given us
lessons in life and love. They first met at a book café, and shared something
that was good about themselves. Mina said “I keep promises”. Later when
talking about being separated, Hongki asked if she would come if he called.
She replied “I can’t promise you now because promises should be taken
seriously.” He wanted her to say yes and drop everything to come to his
side. Mina knew that would not always be possible. She wouldn’t make a
promise she couldn’t keep. Mina and Hongki started from a place where
promises and truth are valued. They started by building a relationship on
firm grounds.
“Protector”
Hongki and Mina also taught us the value of letting go. Because Hongki and Mina had experienced disappointments in previous relationships,
they could have chosen to protect their hearts. Instead they let go of their
fears and reached towards each other. They could have remained two shy
strangers playing games, showing only their public face. But Mina honestly
talked about her fears and hurts, giving Hongki a chance to understand
them allowing him to take on the role of protector. Hongki’s total honesty
allowed Mina to feel secure and at home. So, Hongki saw Mina without
makeup, Mina saw Hongki’s hairy legs and they reached a level of intimacy
that is only possible when people remove their public masks to show their
true self. Hongki’s wedding vows said “You know the deep side of me that
no one can know, I love you who give me light, even if our future might be
dark and tough we’d brighten the day with our love. You and I will love.”
Mina talked about how different they were and yet she still wanted to “put
on her heels” and be by his side. They showed us that love is not about
perfection but about being willing to risk it all, knowing that you will fall short,
knowing the other person will love you anyway.
“Taking Care”
Love is more than a fairy tale. Seeing them taking off their wedding rings
should have meant the end, but Hongki did something that moved their
relationship from the fairy tale world into the real world. He gave Mina a
couple necklace. Putting it around her neck, he told her to “take care of it”
and showing her his necklace, he hugged her close. That is when the real
love story began.
“LOVE”
Real love has good times and bad. It’s about loving the other person, faults
and all. While it’s not always perfect, it is about “taking care of the other
person’s heart”, protecting it and keeping it from harm. We believe their love
will stand the test of time. Watching their lo ٔ