“Well, once you recognize the problem
you can do something about it. Everybody
doesn’t recognize the source of their pain
immediately. You have to get to the root and
then you can ask for help. You can pray for
deliverance. You can ask God to send you
somebody to help you through your tough
time.”
Interestingly enough, we women pride
ourselves on our “women’s intuition.” We
brag about “just knowing when something
is wrong.” And yet, we can’t extend an
authentic spirit of understanding toward
those who are wounded and hurting.
Further, we feel entitled to lash out toward
others because we are hurting.
On one side of the coin, consider this:
When one of your sisters lashes out against
you, right out of nowhere, rest assured—
her anger and frustration has nothing to
do with you. She is trying to deal with a
well-concealed wound. Instead of taking
it personal, let your God-given spirit of
discernment kick in. Immediately ask God
to give you the mind to understand that
another sister’s frustration is not necessarily
about you. Next, listen to the voice of God
to know how to respond/minister to another
woman’s wound. And lastly, obey the voice.
Do nothing more, nothing less.
If you do this, will this help her feel
better or even you feel better? Maybe not.
God delivers, you plant the seed. Your
understanding in love covers a multitude of
mistakes.
I know you’re saying, “I’m wounded,
too. Why should I have to be so sensitive to
other folks and their issues? I don’t have to
take the funky attitudes and snide remarks.”
You are right in this. You don’t have to take
it…personally. I promise, I’ll address your
wounds in the very next post. However,
everyone reading this blog has a life of
ministry in their calling. Because of that you
are other-centered.
Think about how you want others to
respond to you when you are hurting. How
do you want your wounds to be dressed? Do
you want someone to just come up and pour
an entire bottle of antiseptic on a gaping
wound? Or would you rather a cotton ball
of antiseptic dabbed on the wound carefully,
with gentle execution and care?
I cannot tell you of all the hurt that
women experience. Right in the next
classroom, cubicle, office, cash register,
assembly line, bus seat, church pew sits a
wounded soul. Look around and discern
that. Whisper a short prayer. “Lord, is this
my ministry?” Then wait. Look into your
sister’s soul and do what God designed
you to do in that moment. Don’t take it
personal. Consider that the wounded soul
is not a problem but a pulpit from which
you should minister. Help to heal and put
away your own self-centeredness. Unity and
love among women of excellence comes one
healed woman at a time. Do your part in
tending to the wounds of a broken woman
and when the time comes, God will send
someone your way in your time of need.
DiAnne Malone is a book author, college
professor and founder of Who’s That Lady Blog.
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