HIMPower Magazine HimPower December 2017 | Page 12

PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT
Are Your Wounds
Sensitive to Touch?
by DiAnne Malone
W
e have ALL been wounded
by others and lots of times by
our own volition, our family,
our friends, strangers even.
Because we are the softer of the sexes, we
are susceptible to being taken advantage of.
We have been verbally abused, physically
assaulted, neglected, disrespected, molested,
raped, overlooked, and abandoned. All of
these experiences shape our relationships
with other people. So, we too, deflect our
past and present wounds on innocent people
who know nothing about what we’ve been
through in our lives.
While I was having my morning cup
of coffee, I sat down to think about how
physical wounds are inflicted and eventually
healed. Whether large or small, the wound
takes time to return to its old self. Some-
times there’s not a scar left after a wound;
however, more severe wounds, the wounds
that cut deep, leave prominent scars.
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So it is with the wounds of a woman.
From the time we are born—sometimes even
before we are born—we are susceptible to
being hurt. All our lives, we carry the scars
from the wounds in our heart. Naturally,
the way we are hurt affects the way we deal
with others. Because of the types of wounds
we’ve received in our past we may be sensi-
tive to certain situations. Just think about
that first deep gash you got on your knee
after you fell off your bike, I mean really fell.
For a while, you couldn’t even touch the scar
because it hurt when you touched. You kept
wanting to pick at it and make it bleed, you
wanted to show it to everybody so you could
get a little loving attention. You kept taking
the band-aid off to see if it had healed yet.
You squirmed and fidgeted and resisted
when someone poured alcohol or peroxide
on it, because it burned. We follow this same
process with our emotional scaring and
wounds. When the wound is fresh it’s sensi-