POOR RICH KIDS
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BRUSHING ASIDE THE PROBLEM
How do parents of bullied children typically react ? Some simply step aside as if it were none of their business : ´ It used to be the same in my school . So what , everyone is still alive , no big deal , get over it ’.
Others are oblivious to it unless something bad happens . They don ’ t seem to notice that their child is reluctant to go to school , aggressive or scared . So what if he / she comes home crying , bruised , soiled , with a torn backpack , locks himself in a room , clams up , has a bad appetite and sleep , pretends to be ill or does whatever it takes to be left alone .
Not surprisingly , kids become reticent and clam up . They know they will get ‘ It ’ s your own fault !’ for an answer .
Explain to your child that anyone , even an adult , would struggle to cope with this challenging situation .
50 % of teenagers do not rely on teachers or parents for support . They shun away even more , conceal their pain , endure humiliation with clenched teeth . To a harsh and lamentable end . Being bullied by classmates is a serious psychological trauma , resulting in nervous disorders and phobias . Some even think of suicide . Some come to school with a gun .
ALL HANDS ON DECK
In a critical situation ( and bullying is ), we absolutely need to step in . Our child is certainly not guilty or asking for it . Bullying can happen in any community , no one is immune to it . So how do we proceed ?
Some discredit their children for bringing it on : ‘ Haven ’ t we told you to lose weight ,’ Why are you such a sissy , can ’ t you fight back ?‘
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Some get transferred to another school just like that , with no notice . Problem solved . With any of the above reactions , grown-ups devalue their children ’ s experience , leaving him / her to it . With no help or attention , however , the young ones do feel abandoned and betrayed . They are not willing to voice the problem . According to surveys , more than
It is vital to make it known . Involve as many people as possible : school board , teachers , fellow parents turning a blind eye and students participating in it , whether directly or indirectly . Whatever it takes , all hands on deck ! If any injuries , report them to the police .
When parents are trying to deal with offenders , without a full understanding and listening to their child ’ s version , things may get much worse . Assaulting the bullies won ’ t get you anywhere . It has to be a serious conversation between responsible adults , teachers and parents . To make a statement , come prepared for this kind of meeting . It may be helpful to rely on your own school memories and life experiences . Don ’ t start with accusations , try to get to the bottom of things , why and what you can do to remedy it all . Some say : ‘ If I interfere , they will take it out on him . It will only make it worse .’ When it is all hushed up and kept secret , however , that ’ s when the worst happens .
In Europe , bullying is taken much more seriously , it is actively frowned upon . Research is carried out and recommendations made for its prevention and standing up
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