Hello Monaco #09 Spring–Summer 2020 | Page 149

POOR RICH KIDS
Some general principles, rules
and educational methods
obviously apply. A number
of books are written on this
subject. You would think, just
follow the advice and go for it.
But in addition to upbringing, more factors,
like genes and environment, account for a
child’s development. Character and health,
his inclinations and the environment must
all be taken into account.
From a «Martian’s point of view», the Principality
conveys a sense of an extraordinary
lightness and holiday-like atmosphere.
Breakfasts, lunches and dinners out,
shopping, all kinds of entertainment and
strolling around... Children don’t ever see
anybody work, except for waiters, drivers,
builders and concierges. These are people
of a different circle, however. The young
ones struggle to understand what kind of
efforts are being made by their parents to
maintain them in the living standard they
are used to.
For raising children in Monaco, it is therefore
important to keep in mind 3 basic concepts:
setting out boundaries, conveying
responsibility and passing on
values.
SETTING OUT BOUNDARIES.
Children need boundaries, some
framework of what’s doable and
what’s not, a behaviour pattern to
stick to. If we don’t set them out,
the child will struggle to do it himself.
It would then be a painful path
of trial and mistakes; very pricey for
him and his parents alike.
Most of the time, we are only forced
to get down to it when the young ones
have already «lost the plot» and their
behaviour is becoming intolerable. The
thing is, we should be anticipating the
«thunderstorm» instead, introducing
rules and boundaries well in advance,
expanding them
gradually.
Children need to have
a concept of «natural
consequences». It is
for him/her to answer
for their actions and
correct their mistakes.
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You’ve made a mess, tidy
up. You’ve been rude,
apologize. You’ve spent
a two-week allowance
in one week, that’s it. If
violating the rules does
not have consequences,
it’s as if they never existed.
The child will carry
on in the same way. He
shouldn’t live in an artificial
paradise, sheltered
from the rest of the world,
but raised with a concept
of social integration.
It is important to teach
your loved ones the
boundaries. A young child
believes that the world revolves
around him. Everyone
is looking after him and serving
him. Eventually, he needs to
give up the illusion of being the
centre of the universe. It must be
made clear that people around
him, at home and outside, have
their own lives, interests and
ideas. No matter what they do,
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