HEALTHY LIFESTYLE · DECEMBER 2018
HEALTHY LIFESTYLE · DECEMBER 2018
7.
TRANSFORM YOUR
BEDROOM
INTO A SANCTUARY FOR
SENSUALITY AND SERENITY!
B
ecause we spend one-third of
our lives in bed, it is sensible that
your bedroom be a peaceful
retreat and play only two roles in
your life: serenity and sensuality.
Anything else can prevent both a good
night's sleep and a romantic encounter,
which is why it's so important to make sure
your space truly acts as a mirror for your
heart's desire in a relationship. In order to
make your yin more harmonized with his
yang, and his yang more in love with your
yin, consider these propositions from feng
shui guru and spiritual psychotherapist,
Inessa Freylekhman.
1. A messy bed is not sexy, inviting,
or restful. If you don’t have time to make
your bed, you may be neglecting yourself
and not spending enough time on self-care,
an essential practice of living a balanced
life. Splurge on fabrics that appeal to
your senses such as chenille, flannel, silk,
Egyptian cotton, and velvet.
soothing lavender helps to unwind. The
National Sleep Foundation found that 71% of
Americans say they sleep better in a fresh-
smelling bedroom. That should be enough to
convince you to take a whiff and, probably,
make a change.
3.
Reduce chaos. Your TV, iPad, iPod,
phones, and exercise equipment do not
belong in the bedroom! Electronics send
your brain into overdrive and compete for
serenity and sensuality. Also, when you surf
the net, check Facebook, or watch television
in the bedroom or right before getting some
shut-eye, you're programming your brain to
wake up and work.
4. Release clutter. Clutter stagnates
your energy and sex life, sends you into a
feeling of inundation, and is a major love
repellent. Need I say more? Your nightstands
should be neat, not in a state of disarray.
5. Choose your books wisely. Only
read books that are relaxing before going
to sleep. What you put in your head right
before snoozing actually goes into your
subconscious and you process it all night.
What do you want to process in your
dreams? That should give you a hint as to
what is an ideal reading choice.
6.
Don't use old sheets from old
relationships! If you’re single and still
sleeping on the same sheets from your last
relationship, then it's time for a makeover.
Feng shui states that energy sticks to stuff.
You don’t want those old memories stamped
on your bedroom or your mind to hold you
back from meeting the right “one." Also,
don't make the bedding completely white.
It creates a sense of sterility and isn't very
inviting.
Toss the old mattress! Because
we spend a third of our lives in bed,
the mattress records all the memories
from the past. It contains an emotional
signature of everything you felt, thought,
and experienced. If you're in a break-up or
divorce, that's one of the first things to let
go of. Otherwise, the old energy can keep
you feeling sad, stagnant, and attracting
the same type of partners.
This is true whether you're in a relationship
right now or not. Act as if!
11. Matching nightstands represent
equality and matching lamps illuminate
through difficult times. Remember to
purchase low voltage lights to keep the
mood conducive for unwinding.
12.
Screechy,
whiny, and cranky
doors and bed
can create stress
and can be
metaphors for
the way you
feel about
yourself,
love, and
relationships.
Spraying WD-
40 or olive oil
can remove those
nasty sounds and
feelings in an instant.
8. If it's broken,
then fix it. If you
want things to work
in the bedroom,
then make sure
everything literally
works in your
bedroom: doors,
drawers, lamps,
etc. Broken items
drain your energy
and communicate that
something isn't working
in the relationship.
9. Get in command of what you
want! The bed must be in the commanding
position. Having the widest view of the
room from where you are sleeping and
seeing the door help create a sense of
security and ease in the relationship. It also
makes you feel on top of things and gives
you the widest perspective, like you can
handle anything! The more you can create
a situation in which you are in command
of your environment, the less startled,
stressed, and anxious you will feel and the
more conducive for rest and romance your
room will be!
10.
Easy access, baby! Both people
should have easy access to their side of the
bed and the space on both sides of the bed
should be clear, with no obstructions.
13. Make sure the bed has
a strong headboard or wall behind the
head area. This represents security in the
relationship.
14.
TV is out! Not only do TV's create a
harmful electromagnetic field, but they act
as a distraction and can be an excuse for not
dealing with each other on a deeper level.
Keep the TV in an armoire, cover it with a
fabric, or move it out altogether.
15. Pictures of parents, children,
and friends do not belong in the
bedroom! Who wants all those gazing eyes
on you when you're trying to relax or in the
midst of ecstasy? It's hard enough for me
2. Scent is a major libido
activator! Use scented
candles, aromatherapy, a
room diffuser, or fragrant
mist to create the desired
effect. The sensual scents
of rose, vanilla, sandalwood, and jasmine
are known to turn up the sizzle factor while
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to keep my parents out of my head, much
less do I need them staring at me while I'm
trying to fall asleep.
16. Keep your office out of your
bedroom. Need I say more? There are
much better places to pay your bills then
from your bed.
17. Remove anything from under
the bed. Objects under the bed could be
creating stagnation in your sex life.
18. Choose neutral colors and then
pick one wall to paint a knockout color,
which will bring in some of that steamy
energy. It's important to collaborate with
your partner on what colors relax and get
you in the mood.
19.
For you single folk, acting "as
if" will expedite your beloved's
arrival! Create space in your closet and
dresser! Take a stretch and buy another
toothbrush!
20.
Choose art that makes you feel
good and reflects your desires.
21. Remember, first and last
impressions are made in the bedroom.
So make them fantastic, romantic, and
inspiring!
INESSA FREYLEKHMAN
Inessa Freylekhman is a Feng Shui Expert, speaker,
Spiritual Counselor and author. She is the Feng Shui
Practitioner on the highly acclaimed Medical team at
the Carillon Wellness where she teaches two weekly
lectures and offers private psycho-therapy and healing
energy sessions