Health&Wellness Magazine January 2016 | Page 45

For advertising information visit www.samplerpublications.com or call 859.225.4466 | January 2016 & 45 Children who are experiencing bullying tend to be very fragile because of trauma and anxiety. Parenting for Health and Wellness Bullying: When Your Child is the Victim By Sarah Brokamp, Staff Writer Bullying has been an issue for generations, transforming and evolving to fit societal pressures. Children taunt and victimize because, like humans of all ages, they are curious about power and competition. They take note of what is “cool” and use it to compartmentalize the children they socialize with. When a child is being bullied, it is often because other children feel he or she does not meet the standards that come with “fitting in.” Children who are different are usually the ones bullies harass. Sometimes a child is bullied because he or she is in a societal class that is seen as inferior. Other times bullying can be due to certain beliefs the bullied child has or because of his or her sexual orientation. In many cases, a child is bullied simply due to his or her appearance. Though the reasons a child is being victimized do vary, these reasons are always inexcusable. The ages where bullying is prevalent (from age 12-18) are times when children are most insecure and are trying their hand at building power and confidence. It is fair to say that your child will one day have a turn at one aspect of bullying, either victim or perpetrator – or maybe both. Bullying can have serious repercussions, especially for the victim. In 2013, the Centers for Disease Control’s Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance reported on average, across 39 states, 7.2 percent of students admitted they did not attend school due to bullying. If a child feels unsafe, a good-quality education becomes harder to attain because of fear and an inability to focus. The frequency of childhood bullying means parents must be educated about its causes and effects. It is usually difficult to determine if your child is being bullied, so keeping watch for the warning signs is a must. Listed below are possible signs that your child is being victimized and needs parental support: • Reluctance to go to school or participate in school-related events. • A sudden shift in personality (a child who was once extroverted is now introverted). • The child expresses feelings of loneliness and appears to be withdrawn. • The child seems anxious and/or depressed. • The child comes home with mysterious