Now whatever you want to get committed to : Situation , goal , place , Work or to a Person .
Find PAIN POINT . : - Now close your eyes and sit somewhere quite and comfortable . And , Visualise : What will happen if you will not commit to it . These points should be something which should hurt you personally , not the general ones . Something which creates fear in you . See that pain clearly . in terms of your future , your achievements and even your emotional fulfilment . Focus more on your feelings than your intellectual reasoning . Cause at the end of the day we imbibe what we feel much faster than any reason .
Find MOTIVATION : - Now in exact similar way visualise and check out your profit points .
What will you get if you will be committed to this . This too should be very personal and close to your heart ’ s gains , not some social mores from the moral science book or some logical reasoning alone . Lets understand logical reasoning may push your first few steps however , going all the way can only happen through your feelings . So if emotionally you will figure out a happy reason which feels absolutely necessary and vibrantly joyful to you it will put zeal in you personally .
VISUALISE : - now visualise both first pain point then motivations and see your body ’ s reaction on both now keep visualising them some three four times and get your body ’ s inner reactions intensified . You may repeat this visualisation everyday before sleeping and after waking up first thing .
Now commit and work . Everyday visualise these two things , first pain points then motivations at least four five times . You will stay committed to your cause . And once the fruit of your first commitment will be tasted . You will start committing to all your goals one by one , more easily . Eventually you will get into the pattern of a commitment prone person in all your dealings .
And remember that list in the beginning . If this works for you only partially then get a therapist ASAP , to resolve those issues which are creating this half fulfilled experience of the world . And , resolve them first thing .