Why non-sexual touch is so important
How can touch interrupt tension ?
and if something was irritating or sweet . We noticed the same couples sitting closer to each other , continuing the touch as the class moved on .
Another activity is a mindful gaze . During this activity , couples hold hands and are guided through a meditation that includes looking deeply into each other ’ s eyes . They are reminded of what connections brought them to this point . As they look at each other , they are invited to see with new eyes . This meditation never ends without tears and new disclosures .
Why non-sexual touch is so important
It sounds like a fairytale ending , but non-sexual touch brings happiness , peace , and physical health [ i ]. Non-sexual touch is a necessity that is often ignored in our ultra-individualistic culture . We need to be cuddled , hugged , and kissed . We need to hold hands , look deeply into someone ’ s eyes , and touch their arm . We must have a physical acknowledgment of our needs .
These claims are well-documented in research studies [ ii ] [ iii ] that help us understand some of our own cultural problems . Something as easy as holding a hand can lower blood pressure [ iv ]. No prescription is needed for a hug that can reduce stress . Increased immunity and lower cortisol can come from a gentle cuddle .
This is great news because touch has no harmful side effects . However , in a touch-averse culture like ours , we may struggle to embrace this easy solution . As Americans , we are pretty friendly and talkative , but we are not always inclined to comfort through touch . The former chairman of the psychology department of Seattle Pacific University , Jay Skidmore , explains , “ socialcultural trends in America have focused for decades on reducing touch .”
Field describes the larger cultural effects of the lack of touch by pointing out that “ … cultures that exhibited minimal physical affection toward their young children had significantly higher rates of adult violence ” but “ those cultures that showed significant amounts of physical affection toward their young children had virtually no adult violence .[ v ]”
How can touch interrupt tension ?
When marriages and relationships have tension , our natural response is to pull back . But here is where mindfulness may help . Next time you feel a bit of tension between you and your partner , tune in to your observing mind . Are you aware of all your senses ? Sight , sound , taste , smell , and most importantly here , touch . Notice any thoughts or emotions that