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perfectionist expects themselves to be perfect , and others around them and events to be perfect .”
A perfectionist is constantly reaching for a goal that is always just a little beyond reach . That ’ s certainly setting oneself up for frustration and disappointment , and maybe unnecessary anxiety . In her book , The Happiness Makeover , M . J . Ryan cites that “ research has shown that perfectionists are less healthy , less happy , have less satisfying relationships , and even earn less than others .”
There are many “ downsides ” when a person seeks perfection as a goal . A perfectionist may avoid taking risks for fear that the outcome will not be perfect . This is a very limiting outlook and one looses the opportunity for learning from their mistakes and becomes “ stuck ”. It has often been said “ no risk , no success .” A person seeking the perfect relationship sabotages themselves from the beginning , as we know there is no “ perfect relationship .” Expecting others to do a perfect assignment or job is another pitfall of the perfectionist . This expectation can often trigger an anger / anxiety reaction from the perfectionist , creating intolerance that can be non-productive or hurtful in the workplace .
Solution
A reasonable solution to perfectionism is to replace the goal of perfection with a more realistic , attainable goal : excellence . In the Academy Awards they give the awards for “ excellence ” in acting etc ., not perfection in acting .
Adopting the goal of excellence helps “ take the edge off ,” enabling a person to become more tolerant , understanding , and more solution oriented . The actor Michael J . Fox is quoted : “ I am careful not to confuse excellence with perfection . Excellence I can reach for ; perfection is God ’ s business .” Replacing the goal of perfection with the goal of excellence enables a person to actually enjoy their work or activity more because they let go of the pressure of having to do the task or activity perfectly . The less pressure a person feels , the better they function , and the better they can concentrate .