Gavin knew how to work toward goals . Hard work was one of his values , as was honesty and decency . So he secured some charity work . Then he got paid employment . He strengthened his desire to make a difference " in a good way ." He started dating and finally met someone he could trust and love , and whom he could accept love from .
Gavin didn ' t want to see himself as the victim . ' Victim blaming and shaming ' are buzzwords , but for some it ' s shameful to think of themselves as a victim at all .
" I owe it to myself ", he told me at last , " but also to the man I killed , to live the best life I can ."
About Mark Tyrrell
Psychology is my passion . I ' ve been a psychotherapist trainer since 1998 , specialising in brief , solution focused approaches .