members be themselves in your company . Speak to them in the same way that you would speak to a neighbour or friend . Remember , you don ’ t own anyone . TRY treating your partner as you would a flatmate . Be free individuals who don ’ t try to control each other and do your share of the chores . Just think , if you were sharing with friends and you didn ’ t pull your weight they wouldn ’ t put up with it and would move out or ask you to leave .
8 . Ditch The Ideal And Love What ’ s Real
Don ’ t set up your partner to fail by having too-high expectations of them and how they should behave towards you . Be relaxed about presents . If there ’ s something you want or need , buy it for yourself instead of expecting someone else to read your mind . This way you will be happy . If you have been disappointed in the past , don ’ t keep putting yourself in situations in which others can disappoint you . If you want a birthday party , organise it yourself : only you know what you really want . Take control of your own happiness . TRY visualising disappointing past events as old photographs ; file them into albums and put them away so that you can move on . You can choose to forgive your partner , and yourself , for whatever has happened in your past . You don ’ t need approval from anyone but yourself . Then , once you have filed the old photographs , visualise a new album being filled with pictures of your future happy life together .
Alisa Frank ( C . ht ., D . hyp , MHF )
I am a British hypnotherapist ; motivational keynote speaker and author of the book “ Cut the Crap and Feel Amazing ” published by Hay House . Through my talks , workshops , one-to-one phone hypnotherapy sessions and my range of hypnosis downloads I ' ve helped thousands of people , from all walks of life , to improve their lives around the world , including CEO ' s , Actors and Singers .
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