Healing and Hypnotherapy Volume 5, Issue -3, 1 September 2020 | Page 27

Staying angry at someone hurts you the most. In some cases, anger actually
empowers the other person because you’re showing them how much energy and
effort you’re putting into hating them. (This is why internet trolls thrive so much.)
10. What people say and do says more about them than you
Whenever another person is unkind or cruel, their behaviour is secretly a reflection
of how they treat themselves. This sad truth can help you feel better and also
practice disarming and letting go of intense emotions.
Letting Go of Anxiety and Stress
11. Find the belief behind your fear
All forms of anxiety and stress are linked to the thoughts in our heads. What
underlying belief is causing you such great fear? Remember that the thoughts are
just thoughts: they don’t mean anything about you or your life until you give them
meaning. So what core belief is triggering your anxiety?
12. Breathe deeply
Mindful breathing is such a simple technique yet one of the most powerful out
there. When you focus on your in-breath and out-breath you are essentially drawing
yourself back into the present moment. Anxiety and stress develop when our minds
get lost in past or future thoughts. So breathing is a simple way of grounding you in
the here and now. Deep breathing also stimulates the vagus nerve which sends
signals to your brain to calm you down.
13. Use natural soothing herbs
Herbs such as damiana and holy basil are effective herbal remedies for anxiety that
help to calm down your nervous system. Once your body is relaxed, you can then
begin the process of letting go of anxiety-provoking thoughts. If you are struggling
with extreme muscle tension and feel physically crippled by anxiety, you might
even like to consider medication for a short period of time. I have nothing against
medication: so long as it is a temporary method that is accompanied by proactive
natural relaxation techniques.
14. Realise that you cannot control your thoughts 

The reality is that we cannot control our thoughts, otherwise, don’t you think we
would always choose to think positive and happy thoughts? Thoughts are