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For those who have conquered the mind , it is their friend . For those who have failed to do so , the mind works like an enemy .
( Srimadbhagvat Geeta : Chapter 6 Verse 6 )
Your question is : I am a divorced man . I remarried again . My wife keeps bringing up my past relationship when gets angry . I already raised a flag not to bring . But it happens . I m being told that I m " second hand ”, She is Injuring me emotionally which she does not even realise . Please suggest what to do ?
When you remarried she must be aware of all the facts of your life .
That means she had then accepted you just the way you were . Now anger ’ s emotional reaction is very out of control with some people .
I assume that you have already talked to your wife , regarding its effect and now , she knows that this point hurts you . So she brings it up to hurt you .
First of all observe , how does your fights starts ? Check out , is there a pattern or , they are random . If there is a pattern then , what exactly happens ? Now , here you have mentioned with what kind of words she hurt you . But , there is no clarity regarding your words and actions of those moments .
Here are two assumed scenarios : -
1 Is there something with which , you retaliate , or initiate ? What is that ? Is it something related to her weak points ……….
If yes then , she is hurting you back with what she has about you .