Healing and Hypnotherapy Volume 5, Issue 1, 1 July 2020 | Page 11

Another concern popped up was, inability to deal with criticism and, if some
authority figure gives critical evaluation; a tendency, to feel bad, and try to
get even by some kind of sabotage, We have things tangled up in multiple
emotional levels.

So when we have addressed this issue fear of failure, it has lead us to the
childhood trauma. Now! that person was under constant scrutiny as a child.
Adults around this person (as a child) were such that they shouts at the
drop of the hat. Being a sensitive child it slowly turns into inner torture for
the child. By and by this person has developed a defence mechanism.
Where it mostly try to avoid responsibility. If given wants one more person
to be around. Yet loves praises.


Now, we had to do the inner child healing work. Once this one was finished
we continued working on ‘fear of failure’; which was now considerably
reduced and manageable due to inner child healing. However, the person
had yet to reach at the optimum level of functionality in terms of confidence. 


Here is something I would like to communicate with our readers that, “We
can not put any mechanism which guarantees success all the time but, we
can help in acceptance of success and failure alike.

I have started to work on client’s capacity of self love….Self Love!!! - yes
Self love you must be thinking what it has to do with procrastination well
here it is a very important ingredient. When one’s sense of self worth
gets associated with success then the fear of failure becomes
crippling.


Lets understand this inner work. When a person value himself as a person
and human being detached from his successful or failed endeavour then it
is easier to handle failure.


So we have done extensive work on that. This has taken number of