Healing and Hypnotherapy Volume - 4, Issue - 5, 1 November 2019 | Page 8

In the context of low self-worth, the main core wounds we carry sound like the
following:
• I am bad
• I am unlovable
• I am unworthy
As psychologist P. T. Mistlberger:
There may be said to be two fundamental lies that form the basis of the
personal self and its faulty self-image (which creates our overall sense of
personal limitation). These are 1. ‘I am a flawed, bad person’ and 2. ‘I must
change or fix myself to correct this problem’. These two premises form the
basis of the ‘core wound’.
Of course, to our conscious minds, these core wounds may sound silly. After
all, most of us don’t go around consciously telling ourselves these things.
But we do unconsciously.
In fact, core wounds are like broken records that keep skipping at the same
place ad nauseam, within our unconscious minds. These vampiric little slugs
that feed off our fear are ancient: they were formed at a very young age and
continue to be fed throughout our lives.
Unfortunately, at some point, we actually seek out ways to feed these core
beliefs and reinforce our faulty ideas about ourselves because it provides us
with a sense of safety.
This sounds absurd, right?
Well, there is a strange logic to it. I’ll explain that next …
Reason #2: Protecting Ourselves Against What We Fear
The second reason why we develop low self-worth is to protect ourselves
against what we fear – or what we’ve been conditioned to fear.
What do we fear?
Well, primarily, we fear the following:
1 Rejection and abandonment from others (and therefore = death)
2 Our own power
The first one is a no-brainer.
When we possess low self-worth, we’re constantly trying to please and
appease others. We become people pleaser who are invested in gaining
approval because that’s how we think we’ll survive. In a sense, we are
regressing to our infant fears of being rejected (and therefore susceptible to
literally dying), not realising on an unconscious that we’re adults now.