Healing and Hypnotherapy Volume 4 Issue- 10, 1 April 2020 | Page 19

Don’t be upset if you alternate between self-love and self-hatred. It’s normal
to go through ups and downs. But the more you practice embracing yourself
each and every day, the more you’ll be able to deal with what life throws at
you.
Relax.
Give yourself a break.
Remember that “attaining” self-love can be just another thing you use to beat
yourself up and feel like a failure. 
So slow down. Go easy on yourself. And as author Matt Kahn writes,
“Whatever arises, love that.” This means you can practice accepting and
forgiving all things that arise in you, including insecurity, shame, guilt, and
self-judgment.
We’ll explore more how to do this later.
How to Love Yourself More (7 Practices)
Here are a few tips you can take away from this article that I have personally
learned on the-path-less-taken:
1. Learn to be discerning and say “NO, that’s not true”
You will hear a lot of things on your path; some consciously and some
unconsciously. You will be told that your body isn’t slim enough, your face
isn’t pretty enough, your personality isn’t charming enough, making mistakes
is unacceptable, taking care of your needs is selfish … yadda, yadda, yadda.
Not all of these untrue and unhealthy perceptions will be immediately
obvious. Some of them will creep into your mind and belief system, polluting
your self-perception. In fact, many of these toxic perceptions probably have
already.
Not many people talk about discernment when it comes to learning how to
love yourself more. “Discernment” is largely a dull-sounding word, but it is SO
important. For instance, how can you tell truth from lies without learning how
to be discerning?
To learn how to be discerning you need to question everything. Yes, this can
be tiring, but it is worth every ounce of your effort. Why? Because being
discerning will help you to sort through a lot of mental rubbish, antiquated
beliefs, and harmful ideals. Learning to say “NO, that’s not true” helps you to
discover what the truth actually is. And the truth is always grounded in love
(but again, you will have to discover this for yourself).