Healing and Hypnotherapy Volume 4 Issue- 10, 1 April 2020 | Page 17

Some of us give up. Others of us persist, but end up withering under the
weight of social pressure. But then, some of us continue on that lonely path,
being comforted by a few on the way, but otherwise battling against the
constant onslaught of “you’re not good enough,” “you should be like us,” “you
aren’t worth it,” “you’re so selfish.”
Loving yourself, TRULY and UNCONDITIONALLY loving yourself in this era,
is a breathtaking accomplishment. It is an exceptionally rare practice that
many people talk about, but few genuinely know how to walk the talk.
How to Prevent Others From Dragging You Down
As we’ve just explored, you will inevitably be faced with people who disagree,
disapprove or outright challenge your desire to make self-love a way of life.
Here is how to see the bigger picture and prevent them from bringing you
down:
1. Realise that other people are scared and in pain
One big part of learning how to love yourself more is learning not to take so
personally other people’s treatment of you.
Ask yourself, how can a person who only knows conditional love give
you unconditional love?
That’s like expecting a baby to climb a mountain. It doesn’t happen, and it
can’t happen. Therefore,
what is the point of mourning the impossible?
What is the point of getting wound up and unhappy over the people in your
life who not only don’t support you but also speak against you?
Their very actions speak of the abject lack of true love they have
experienced. Isn’t that so very sad?
Most people not only don’t possess unconditional love, but they’re also
caught up in an Underworld of fear and pain. 
This fear and pain are both sourced from the illusion that they are separate
from life – that they are humans having a life experience, rather than Life
having a human experience.
Once you realise that people are scared and in pain, it takes out the sting
from their disapproving stares and mistreatment of you – and it frees up the
energy to provide yourself with more self-love. Once this realisation hits you,
you stop reacting to their negativity and start feeling compassion for them –
and it is this precise compassion that befuddles them and sometimes  is
enough to motivate them to try the same path.