or a ‘Bhogi’ (Indulgent) spiraling to doom! In Hindu philosophy an
individual’s
life
was
divided
in
four
parts
or
‘Ashrams’:
1)
Brhamcharya/Bachelorhood (till 25 yrs)- marked preparation phase,
studies, and learning Control of Sexual Energy; 2) Grihastya/Family Life
(25-50
yrs)-Marital
-Family
Life-Sexual
Energy
in
Motion;
3)
Vanprasthya/Social Service/Detachment (50-75 yrs)-Serving/Giving back
to society-Sexual Energy Slow-down/Rest; and 4) Sanyasa/Renunciation
(75-100
yrs)-Spiritual
Quest-Moksha/Liberation-
Sexual
Energy
Transformation for Liberation of Soul. Ancients knew about the power of
this Energy and how it can be channeled into positive productive ways and
also the grave dangers if its let loose without due awareness. History is
replete of tales and examples of individuals and groups who made a mark
on human history both in a positive as well as negative ways, simply by the
way they used the sexual energy.
4.
Here I would like to share the storey of a client who had come to me
seeking help to resolve his uncontrolled indulgence to sex. This guy in his
late forties was a married man with two lovely kids and a lovely wife whom
he loved, yet he had been into multiple relationships, one-night stands, and
even paid-sex. He understood and accepted that his sexual misadventures
were gravely inappropriate and sinful breach of his marital woes, yet he felt
helpless to control his libido and thrill of seeking-out new partners. During
pre-talks he shared that his sexual awareness and indulgence started at a
very early age of around 9-10 years, owing to a close female relative who
lived with his family during the early years of his life. This lady will indulge
him in various sexual acts starting with simple hugs and kisses at an early
age of 7-8 years to full sexual intercourse by the time he was in his pre-
teens, all on pretext of ‘playing and games’. He shared about his mixed