Healing and Hypnotherapy Special Mega Annual Issue 21 June 2017 | Page 21

As she integrated that experience, she discovered that her desire for the king was not born out of love, but simply the desire to control him and be superior to him, so that she could end the suppression of women in a male dominated society. This again pointed to another complex double bind. The compulsion to please men on the one hand and the desire for freedom from male suppression on the other. However , the belief that experience made her better at her job as a pleasure provider and the drive to be the best in her trade, prompted her to keep engaging in the sexual act and it created strong mental imprints in her mind field which she carried forward into her present life. Perhaps it was this mental residue or imprint that caused the childhood incidents of abuse. (One may also posit that these may have been the soul's way of burning away these karmic imprints.) But the most interesting observation was the fact the she had started putting on weight shortly after the first incidence of abuse . Was her obesity a subconscious attempt to make her unattractive to men and stop the recurrence of the abuse , thereby providing her indemnity and protection? Were her past life memories responsible for her deep seated contempt against authority figures , particularly men, and the contrarian compulsion to please them? In this case there are multiple layers of personal beliefs which are amplified by collective and trans-generational beliefs about pleasing men and feeling suppressed by them and hence it requires further therapeutic intervention wherein these layers can be peeled away and the gender specific limiting beliefs can be corrected. However , what the above session will result in is that the client will become conscious of her operating beliefs and this itself will begin to dilute them. Once she reclaims the power to say no to the things she doesn't want to do, and learns to exercise her freewill, she will develop the confidence to assert herself and will no longer need the added weight to keep men or authority figures at a safe distance from her. Suzy Singh Transpersonal Therapist, Karma Coach and Energy Healer with extensive clinical experience, in multidisciplinary approaches to vibrational and spiritual healing. Her practice is based, in Delhi. [email protected]