Harmony in Marriage
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This is all moha (attachment). This moha will eat you alive and
cause you to suffer.
This whole life of yours will be wasted away on such
trivial things. Now I am telling all the ladies not to go shopping.
They need to put a stop to all their shopping sprees. Just
because you have the money, why do you buy things if you do
not need to? It is all useless. Should you not be spending the
money on something worthwhile? If someone has a hardship in
his family and they do not have any money, wouldn’t it be nice
to give them fifty or hundred dollars? Why throw money away
unnecessarily over things that create problems at home?
Questioner : Then the women throw terrible tantrums.
They get crabby.
Dadashri : Men too throw terrible tantrums. Even I
threw a terrible tantrum once, don’t you know?
There are not a lot of tantrums nowadays. What is the
purpose of throwing a tantrum? People throw tantrums because
they want to have things their own way. By throwing a tantrum
they intimidate and coerce the other person to give in or to
make them act according to what they want.
Questioner : Why is it that in every situation, the women
are blamed and not the men?
Dadashri : For women it is like this: The men used to
control the laws so the women have been victimized.
Men have written most of the books and so the
importance has been given to the husband. Women have not
been given any recognition. These people have done away with
any importance of women. Now, the men have also suffered in
the process. These very men will be the ones who will go to
hell. From here they go directly to hell. This is not so for