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of the family. She is not the owner of the family, you are the
owner. In Bombay people asked me why I side with women as
opposed to men. I replied, “Lord Mahavir was born to a
woman, who are you men going to give birth to?” You people
are making a big issue for no reason.
Questioner : Still, you are partial towards the women.
This is what we believe.
Dadashri : Yes. People have accused me of that, but at
the same time I raise men up so high, that even women start to
respect them. I arrange things in such a way. If you look at it,
on the surface, it appears that I am siding with the women, but
from within I root for the men. Therefore, there has to be ways
to arrange things. Both parties need to be satisfied.
I get along very well with women as well as men. I
neither side with men, nor do I side with women. Both have to
be equally responsible. People in the past have made women
inferior. Women are helpful. If the woman were not there, how
would your household run?
[19] COMPLAINTS FROM THE WIFE
If you complain you will become a complainer. If anyone
comes to me complaining about someone, I consider him to be
a guilty party. Why has an occasion arisen for him to complain?
Most complainers are usually the perpetrators. Being the
wrongdoer himself, he comes to complain. If you complain, you
will become the complainer and the other person will be the
accused. In his eyes you become the accuser. So never make
a complaint against anyone.
If the other person is multiplying the conflict by complaints
and discord, you should use division and try to achieve peace
by settling the matter with equanimity. To spend time thinking
about why a person caused you hurt is a grave mistake. If you