Harmony in Marriage
25
I have been married for fifty-five years. I made mistakes
up until the age of twenty-five or thirty. Before Gnan, when I
was young, I too, used to throw things in anger. I had an ego!
The ego of a reputable Patel from the six villages! The high and
mighty! Then one day, I realized that my nobility was lost in the
act of throwing things in anger. My reputation was auctioned in
such acts. Do our (Indian) men throw things at women? These
bags of ignorance! Is this a becoming conduct for us? Does this
suit us?
Questioner : At least when you throw things it is over
and done with. But when you gain possession of internal
differences, its results are much worse, because they cause one
to continually behave differently. Is that not considered more
dangerous?
Dadashri : Internal differences? Those are extremely
dangerous.
I have searched through scriptures and for a solution to
these internal differences. I did not find anything in any of the
scriptures. Then, I discovered the solution myself, and that was
to rid myself of my own opinions, to get rid of my opinions, in
order to prevent conflicts with others. Where there are no
opinions, there is no scope for conflict.
Your opinion is my opinion.
Once I had a conflict with Hiraba. Even I became
trapped in a difficult situation. I used to call my wife, ‘Hiraba’.
As a Gnani Purush, I can either address women as, ‘Ba’
(mother: gesture of respect towards elderly ladies) or as ‘dikri’
(daughter). If you are interested, I can tell you. It is not a long
story, just a short one.
Questioner : Yes, do tell us.
Dadashri : One day we had a conflict of opinions