Harmony in Marriage 117
do? You should keep relations with that person on the outside, but from within you should do pratikraman for them, because your current predicament is a result of your atikraman( causes, transgression of attachment or abhorrence through the mind, speech or actions) from your past life. What were the causes? The causes were acts of transgression against that person in your previous life, the result of which you are now experiencing. Therefore if you do pratikraman for him, you will lighten the load. Keep doing pratikraman internally and keep asking for forgiveness from his Soul. Then you will be able to bring an end to your misery. Do your pratikraman through any God and keep that God as your witness, then everything will be cleared, otherwise what will happen? If you keep looking at him with scorn and you keep blaming him, contempt will set in and you will come to hate him. Feelings of hate and contempt will lead to feelings of aversion and fear. When you feel contempt for a person, you will also fear that person. The moment you see that person, you feel afraid. Recognize this as a consequence of inner contempt. In order to be free from contempt, repeatedly keep asking for forgiveness from the pure Soul of the person you have contempt for. This contempt will stop in two days. Acknowledge your faults and all wrongdoing against that person. Understand that your current predicament is the result of your own past errors. Ask the Lord within him, for forgiveness for all the hurt you have caused him. Then everything will be washed away.
Questioner: If we want to follow the path of religion, then we have to renounce our home and the world. This may be good for our religious progress, but it hurts the people at home. Is it not selfish to renounce the life at home for one’ s own religious benefit?
Dadashri: First you will have to fulfil your obligations and responsibilities towards your family. If you make them