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human beings are so caught up with marriages.
Even these cows and buffaloes have marriages; they too
have children, but is there such thing as a husband (boss) there?
They too become fathers-in-law and mothers-in-law, but do
they organize things like these ‘intelligent’ people? Do they ever
say, “I am her father-in-law?” Despite this their lives are just
like ours. They too, breast feed their young, and lick their
calves don’t they?
You are a pure Soul and your interactions with the world
should be superficial. You have to remain in the ‘home
department’ (your real Self) and remain superficial in the
‘foreign department’ (your relative self). Superficial means not
having tendencies to get involved or engrossed in thoughts,
speech, and acts. Live your life as if you are in a drama, but this
drama has to be acted out very precisely; at the time of profit
you have to laugh in this drama and at the time of losses, you
have to cry. You have to accurately portray the emotions in the
drama. You have to act out the part, but do not become
involved internally. We have to maintain casual acquaintances
and connections only. Have you not heard people say, “My
relationship with this gentleman is casual”? That is the kind of
relationship you have to keep with the whole world. He, who
knows how to maintain this kind of a relationship, becomes a
Gnani. You have to keep a similar relationship even with your
body. I have that kind of a relationship with everyone, but
people still tell me, “You keep very good relationship with us.”
I go through the motion of all the worldly interactions while
remaining as the Self.
Questioner : Is it possible that a husband’s success is
because of his wife’s good karma? Don’t people say that it is
because of the wife’s good karma that the family has wealth and
prosperity? Is that true?