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After happily eVer Planning your wedding is a difficult and stressful task, and dealing with difficult future in- laws doesn’t really make it any easier. your way anyway. Some in-laws can be demanding when it comes to guest lists, flowers, décor and even food, mainly because they probably helped pay for your big day. One important key leading to your big day is communication. Here are four tips to help you deal with those difficult future in-laws in a drama free way: 1. Hear them out: Every in-law, especially the future mother-in-law, is going to want to drive the planning in their own direction. Allow them to say what they want, and then go ahead and do it 2. Be patient: Future in-laws are going to try to ‘meddle’ in the arrangements and demand certain things be done their way. But it’s your day, not theirs. Regardless of what you say or do, everyone is going to give his or her opinion. It’s up to you whether you are going to allow it to upset you, or choose to ignore it. 3. Give them an active role in the planning: Avoid the family drama and decide what role each in-law may play in your wedding planning. Something simple, like deciding the seating arrangements or sending out the invitation, can help them feel like they played an integral part in your special day. 4. Compromise… slightly: This is your day, and no- one is going to spoil it for you. But sometimes it’s a good thing to hear someone else’s point of view when it comes to the flowers and décor. Hear what their ideas are, and perhaps play around with it. Often, one can come to an arrangement which suits all parties involved without causing drama and family feuds before the big day. Remember, this is your day and you are allowed to stand up and speak up if you do not agree with decisions made regarding the wedding.