› Build in Flexibility
- Accept fluctuations in plans based on how you are feeling in the moment . Learn to take each moment as it comes
› Give Yourself Permission “ To Be ”
- Expect changes in mood and perspective . Grief can change and exhaust mental and emotional energy . Mourning is nature ’ s way of healing the mind and heart . Allow yourself privilege of being present with your thoughts , feelings , and emotions as they arise
- Cry if you need to cry . Be angry if you need to be angry
› Be Kind to Yourself and Don ’ t Compare Your Life or Grief Experiences to Others
- Handling your emotions may be the only thing you can handle right now . It is important to care for yourself and your needs
› Help Another Person in Need
These dates may be the hardest that you face , and you may experience hurt and pain . However , you will continue to heal and love . The best gift you can give to yourself is to continue living
* Adapted from Surviving the Holidays When Someone You Loved Has Died by Judy Tatelbaum , reprinted from Bereavement Magazine Nov / Dec 1991
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