Helpful Phrases in Supporting Children :
› Daddy ’ s heart stopped working › Mommy died . Her body stopped working › What has this been like for you › I ’ m here to listen › I ’ m here for you › My mom died too . How was her birthday for you ? › I appreciate you talking to me about this › It sounds like this has been a struggle
› I ’ m proud of you . What do you think your dad would say if he were here ?”
Unhelpful Phrases : › You must be … › At least …. › It ’ s part of a bigger plan › I know how you feel › You ’ re so strong › Don ’ t feel that way › They would want you to be happy › They would be so proud of you › Let me know if there is anything I can do
* Adapted from The Dougy Center What To Say Instead
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