elderly cannot get to the grocery store. Tiffany suggests checking the refrigerator and cupboards for expired items. Sometimes, an elderly loved one will eat less, substituting a sandwich or snacks for a substantial meal, or he or she might stop drinking fluids in the evening because it is too difficult to get up during the night to use the bathroom. Mismanaging medications, including missed medications, forgetting medications have already been taken, or taking the wrong dosage, can lead to a serious fall or other catastrophic events.
Mental and emotional signs include trouble sleeping or sleeping too much, trouble concentrating, or not wanting to attend family events or worship services. Forgetfulness and dementia may also be noticed. The inability to drive can result in a loss of independence and cause isolation, loneliness, anxiety and depression.“ Social interaction is so important to keep our minds stimulated as we get older,” says Sheri Evans, sales counselor at Somerford Assisted Living and Alzheimer’ s Care in Hagerstown.“ The more we are with people, the better our minds.”
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SEEKING SUPPORT Talking with an aging loved one about future care will help facilitate a smoother transition, if needed.“ I recommend being honest with an elderly parent and having the discussion about a plan for their long-term care in advance,” says Dawn Johns, executive director of Potomac Case Management Services in Hagerstown. Have patience, and expect resistance the first time the subject is approached.“ Plant the idea, mention the options and benefits, then revisit the subject later,” advises Deborah Haviland, director of marketing at Fahrney-Keedy Home & Village in Boonsboro. The parent’ s primary care physician can help with information and referrals.“ Doctors can be a great support system when approaching a loved one about possibly needing more care,” Tiffany says.
Accurate information will help family members prepare for the issues they will confront. Check for local support groups, and look to someone with experience.“ You can’ t find help if you don’ t share,” says Sally Weagley of Waynesboro, Pa.“ Taking care of an aging loved one doesn’ t need to be hidden.” Sally helped both of her parents confront declining health.
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