The Guru and the Disciple
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you are not happy with the work he does, then you can take less
work out of him. But what is wrong with just casually visiting him
once in a while?
Questioner: What if someone has a guru and then he meets
You. Then the guru becomes like the ‘tea’ and you like the ‘jalebee’
(meaning one finds even tea with sugar bland after eating a jalebee!)
What do we do about that?
Dadashri: If the situation becomes like that of ‘tea and
jalebee,’ it is a different matter. That is natural. If I tell him, ‘Let
the guru go’ then he will take the wrong path. Therefore, one is
not to leave the guru. If things become bland, let them be, but you
must not drop him. You should go and do his darshan occasionally
so that he does not feel hurt. If he knows that you are going
elsewhere, you should tell him, ‘I have found this benefit solely
because of your grace. You have put me on this road!’ This will
make him happy. What is this path of the Self, like? It is a path
where one will never forget even the person who had offered him
a cup of tea. What do you think?
Questioner: I did not understand; that is why I ask this
question.
Dadashri: That is very well. It is best to make sure through
asking. Make sure of everything by asking.
That is why you must not reject him. If you have made
someone your guru, it is very wrong to reject him. You did take at
least something from him, did you not? He must have helped you
to some extent. He must have helped you climb a step or two,
which is why you must be obliged to him. So whatever you have
attained thus far is, of course, an obligation. You cannot forget a
person who has helped you! So you should not leave your guru.
You should do his darshan. If you reject him, it will hurt him and
that will put you at fault. If you have obliged me in some way and
then I leave you, that would be a mistake on my part. That is why