Gscene Magazine Gscene - January 2013 | Page 65

GSCENE 65 CRAIG’S THOUGHTS CRACKING ON OR; THIS IS A MAN’S WORLD AND IT HAD BETTER STAY THAT WAY BY CRAIG HANLON-SMITH As the season to be jolly and its preceding year disappears behind a thick cloud of Channel 5’s 100 Worst Celebrity ****Ups and under the cover of darkness we guiltily borrow half a recycling box from the old dear next door to both simultaneously hide our festive drink problem from ourselves, and rather cruelly, cast our neighbour as an old soak to the bin men (I know that’s not particularly diverse but they are always men. Always); we laughingly reach for the back of a soon to be shredded Christmas card and sketch out the life improving revolutions that we promise to keep until approximately January 4th. Let us not be too cynical about the tradition of self-improvement, setting goals is a great way to mark out a path of acceleration and change, but a trying one devoid of any meaningful point if we do not or cannot stick to it. Statistics (yawn) teach us that by mid-January more than 50% of resolutions made will have been cast aside along with the dried up naked skeleton of a Christmas tree, and that by the following December less than 10% of us will have successfully steered along the path of self improvement and across the finish line. So why the failure? Well, it’s quite possibly not such a surprise. “Was there a concern that ordination ceremonies if led by women would be littered with quips from Victoria Wood sketches?” By enlarge the intention is a positive one, a new year, new beginnings and as the Magi leave their gifts in the stable at the foot of baby Jesus we simply try to have an epiphany of our own. But perhaps equally as inappropriate as the gift of gold to a child sleeping on bale of hay in the shadow of a donkey, the goals we set are a bridge of change too far. The trouble is that as a society at large we are not built for the easy acceptance of change, whether it be the coach potato’s introduction of a four times a week visit to the gym or a radical alteration of diet; and if our culture demands the process to be a difficult one, we are sure to follow suit; or the other way round – either/or it’s a stop-start cycle of accepting the status quo. On the whole, when we are ready to embrace change, we would rather it was a slow gentle introduction of mild differences that will not frighten the horses than an earthquake flattening of our former selves. To press home the point, let us look no further that at two mighty bedrocks of our green and pleasant land currently shivering at the possible onset of change; The Church of England and Marriage. 2012 drew to a close with The Church of England General Synod voting not to allow women to become bishops. In 2012? How shameful. Was there a concern that ordination ceremonies if led by women would be littered with quips from Victoria Wood sketches? Or perhaps that the local Anglican Cathedral would suddenly find its stained glass windows framed with floral drapes? Or perhaps more troubling that despite our protestations to the opposite we are still a patriarchal sexist bunch who would much rather have a man sitting in the pilot seat because that is how it was when we were children. It is now almost 25 years since we had a woman Prime Minister living in Downing Street and we have not even come close since. When was the last time a woman put herself forward for a leadership contest of the Conservative Party? 1975 and she won – we must not allow that again. At the most recent leadership election for the Labour Party there was one female candidate, Diane Abbott. She came sixth. Last. Are there really no suitable women for such a position or have the negative memories of Margaret Thatcher tainted the path less trodden for women forever? In April last year I wrote an (other) article on the subject of gay marriage which I swore to be my last word on the subject. Ahem. But in the spirit of these thoughts, just what is it of which we [society at large] are so afeard that the voices of objection consider the possibility of success worth the effort. There cannot really be a fear of two men or two women legally re-enforcing their relationship, the fear must be a real phobia for change and how it might impact ‘me’. As harsh as it may sound we are quite a self-centred lot, never really concerned with the behaviour of others unless there is a fear of ramifications upon the self, which during the festival of Epiphany when we remember the bringing of the gifts to the Christ child, is a tad ironic. And whether it is the idea of gender equality or same-sex marriage or both that might affect you, and you continue to celebrate the possibility of social change for the greater good of your own community, it surely cannot be so difficult to plan and stick to a programme of self-improvement for more than three days should that be to ‘eat less chocolate’ or ‘swim more’. Whether 2013 is our time or not, whether we believe it is now our right to be equal or not, it is still worth acknowledging that we are asking others to accept and support quite monumental changes to how the world has be