Introducing Baby
Preparing the Family for Baby’s Arrival
|by Jeannette Bezinque
Having a sibling is truly one of life’s greatest gifts. As parents, we can promote bonds
between them that will last beyond our years. Depending on the age of the older child,
there are several ways to involve a big brother or sister in baby’s early days.
Prepping for the Older Sibling Role
Even the youngest children recognize babies and are immediately drawn to their captivating smiles. Simple actions like pointing to a baby and then pointing to your belly
while saying the word can get the message across. Other children respond well to roleplay with dolls. By showing actions like how to gently kiss a baby or put on a diaper,
you can teach your child gentle ‘mothering’ skills. Little boys and girls also love babywearing, so fashion a sling out of a receiving blanket or look for a child sized version of
the same carrier you will use.
The most important skills to teach older siblings in preparation for the new baby are
independence, generosity, and love. Montessori lessons around the home are especially
beneficial for fostering an independent spirit. A child who is eager to follow around the
home and help with chores or fetch his/her own snacks is a great ally for a post-partum
Mom. By teaching our children how to complete every-day tasks, we build confidence
and self esteem. More importantly, we give them the skills necessary to play and learn
on their own.
Simple activities like passing a ball back and forth or requesting a toy from a bin demonstrate generosity. Children enjoy the act of giving even more than receiving. Parents
who sign with babies can work on please, thank you, and help around the 18-month
phase. These signs facilitate communicating about needs and can be a huge asset when
it comes to navigating toddler requests.
To encourage love among siblings, take time each day to talk about the members of
the family. Repeat a phrase about love for each family member. Above all, use physical
contact like tickles and hugs to build a wholesome connection.
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